Why you’re not getting anything done

It’s Monday morning and the kids are off (if you have them), the spouse is off (if you have one) and you find yourself sitting in front of your computer ready to get stuff done. But first you decide that you need that extra cup of coffee; you need to respond to that email from you mother; or you need to check-out that Facebook post you’ve been meaning to share. And before you know it…hours have gone by and no work has been done. Now, how did that happen, you ask? It’s simple really. You are procrastinating, avoiding, blind-siding yourself; and the results are always the same: You don’t get anything done.

I call it shiny object syndrome. Often time clients will come to me with a sob story about how life just ran away with them and somehow their list of things they needed to do for their business never got done. In turn: opportunity was lost and guilt set in. After a brief moment of sympathy (because believe me, I’ve experienced this many a time);  I usually lay it out straight for them..the truth, and nothing but the truth.

I say:

This is why you’re not getting anything done:

1. You are afraid of success. I know what you’re thinking: “but it takes such courage to start my own business. How could I possibly be afraid of success?”. But it’s true, and it’s a big one. One that I’ve struggled with for many years. Sometimes we are so uncomfortable of what level of success and happiness is possible for us that it scares us down to our core. Deep within our subconscious, we may hold on to events and words that were said to us earlier (or not so early) in life that still weigh on our self-esteem. What negative thoughts come to you when you think about your dreams? Address these, and you will begin to free yourself from the procrastination monster.

2. You’re worried that others will see you differently. I see this happen quite often. You gain a certain level of success in your work and inevitably lose some ‘friends’ because you are no longer the woman who supports everyone else and asks for nothing in return.  Now you exude confidence and independence and not every person in your life is ok with that. It is sad but true, but the saying “it can be lonely at the top” has its merit. Everyone in our lives serves a particular purpose during a period in our lives. Some relationships are meant to be transitory, educational, supportive; and not all of them will stand the test of time. When you recognize the importance of every relationship in your life, you gain respect for the good, bad and ugly. Don’t be worried about how others will see you as you grow. Those who are true friends and loved ones will stick around and support you through your journey.

3.  It’s all happening so fast. You decided to start your business, you hired a coach, you received your first sale or client and all of a sudden things are taking off! Great, right? Wrong…As much as it’s a blessing to suddenly have money coming in and finally have the opportunity to share your gifts and passions with the world, it can also be overwhelming when it happens at the speed of light. After any period of having to be patient and wait for your dreams to come to fruition, it can seem like a bombardment of blessings, when everything starts to fall into place. Just remember that this is what you asked for and that you are deserving of it all. Set aside quiet personal time for you to remind yourself of how to receive all the goodness that is coming your way.

You see, it’s all very simple. 😉 Take care of you, and procrastination will have no place in your life.  

A sought-after women’s fitness expert, well-being coach, business coach, speaker and writer; Kenya Moses has been featured in a number of publications, including Essence Magazine, PopSugar, eHow, Livestrong, Thriving Women in Business Magazine to name a few. In 2010 she published her first book, Be A Fit Mama: The Essential Pregnancy Stretch Manual, and will publish her newest book The Single Mama’s Guide to Getting Sh*t Done in 2017. www.beafitmama.com www.kenya-moses.com

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